Since the time I was a little girl I have longed to have a family. All my life when someone asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, the answer was always that I wanted to be a Mama. My Mama loved being a Mama and made it seem like the best “job” in the world. She and my Daddy had seven biological children before becoming Foster Parents and adopting four more. Mothering is in my blood! Jonathan and I always knew that we wanted children. Because of my parents example, we knew that we also wanted to adopt. As the early years of our marriage went by, we came to know that biologically we wouldn’t be able to conceive. For us, adoption was not a hard decision although there were hard times in the process. We first decided to adopt privately and that did not work out. Our second option was to become Foster Parents. We became certified Foster Parents very early in 2012. For some reason or another, we never had a placement. We anxiously awaited calls that never came.
In mid April of 2012 after a very long day of babysitting I had almost fallen asleep on the couch. My phone rang and I picked it up thinking that I would silence it, when I knew it was about adoption. Of course I was going to answer this! I tried not to sound sleepy when I answered. She cut right to the chase and told me that she knew of a young sibling group of three, ages 5,4 and 2. Was I interested? I was pretty excited and worried. We have never been parents and I knew that we could “handle” a two year old, but a four and five year old were a bit scary to me. With fostering we only wanted to go to age 4 and now there was a 5 year old that needed a forever family. I talked with her for a few minutes and told her my fears, but I also said that I couldn’t imagine saying no. I told her to give me half and hour to talk with Jonathan and I would let her know our answer ASAP.
As I got off the phone, I walked back to our bedroom where Jonathan was working on the computer, trying to calm my nerves, so I could tell him our “news.” Within just a few minutes we decided that, scary as it was, we were going to pursue this. These three children were now my focus. I certainly wasn’t sleepy anymore. I waited to be emailed the information that they had on these babies. I spent the night reading up on them. My heart broke for the drama, pain and abuse that they had suffered. I wanted to protect these babies. I wanted to be their Mama. I was scared to have “older” children. As I looked into their background that night I realized that the two older boys were soon to have birthdays. As scared as I was to have a 4 and 5 year old and they were about to be 5 and 6! We also realized that one of the boys had seizures, making him “special needs”. The other two had “special needs” as well.
Once we decided to pursue this NOTHING was standing in our way. As I read up on these babies that night I read lots of things that scared me. Lots of challenges were headed our way, but we never faltered. These babies were ours as far as we were concerned. We weren’t changing our minds because of challenges. There were times over the course of the next six weeks when we would hit bumps in the road and think that because of some legality this wasn’t going to go through.
Dana was always a phone call away, encouraging me that I could make it through my “labor”. She reminded me often that no Mama-to-be ever has a baby without labor of some kind. I spent a lot of time in the next six weeks on my knees in prayer, beseeching God to help us adopt these 3 children. Jonathan and I prayed together more than usual and Dana prayed with me over the phone more than once when I had tears streaming down my face. There were times when it seemed impossible. Sacred Selections and Dana helped our family so much. There are so many stresses associated with adoption, but with Sacred Selections, I never once worried about the financial part of it. I knew that Sacred Selections was there to help.
May 19th, six weeks after getting that “are you interested?” call, we drove to Florida to meet our children. On June 7th 2012, less than two months after knowing of their existence, I drove home with our babies. The adoption was finally and completely finalized on New Year’s Eve 2012! Without Sacred Selections we absolutely would not have our children. We wouldn’t have had the finances to adopt three a time. Because of Sacred Selections, and all the Christians who help support them, we have our beautiful family. We and our family will be forever grateful to Sacred Selections.